Relationship Etiquette for Believers

Sometimes, it's statements like we are dating until we become sure.

However, I can't find that in the Bible!

Forming relationships with the opposite sex that give the impression they are heading toward marriage, only to end up marrying someone else, sometimes leads to unnecessary battles for you and your future relationship or marriage.

"But let your statement be, 'Yes, yes' or 'No, no' [a firm yes or no]; anything more than that comes from the evil one." Matthew 5:37 AMP

God's nature is love. Holding on to someone to become sure is wrong, deceptive, and a measure of a person's faith in God.

Perhaps you have imagined that God will run out of the best potential spouse if you don't control the situation, but that is Satan's lies and tricks; it does not reveal God's capabilities. God has all His devoted children covered in all areas and leads and guides us to His perfect will.

Purpose in life far outweighs seeking a boyfriend or girlfriend in an undefined or sexual relationship, and it's a very careless and dangerous act.

"If you want favor with both God and man, and a reputation for good judgment and common sense, then trust the Lord completely; don't ever trust yourself. In everything you do, put God first, and he will direct you and crown your efforts with success." Proverbs 3:5-6 TLB

You must be genuinely single without unkept promises or emotional attachments if you are single. Believers must work their relationships in a way that pleases God.

Suppose anyone has ever taken advantage of others in a relationship for any reason, as highlighted, including satisfying their ego. In that case, they must repent and ask God's forgiveness and the wisdom to cultivate the right relationships.

Here are a few thoughts that a single woman should consider:

• Is he pure in spirit?

• Would he be a priest of our home?

• If I married him, what would his leadership feel like (prison or palace)?

• Am I going to struggle or wait endlessly to fulfill God's unique assignments for me or for us as a family due to selfishness or indecisions?

• Is he truly a child of God? If yes, who or what influences his decisions?

Some thoughts a single man might consider are:

• Is she pure in spirit?

• Would she be a supportive wife (sanctuary or prison)?

• Would she draw me closer to God or hinder my consecration?

• Is she truly a child of God? If yes, who or what influences her decisions?

These are some critical questions to ask yourself. And, of course, the approval to move forward must come from God (not flesh).

In some cultures, money, and fame are believed to do it all. Some believe it is a man who needs a good woman without paying attention to the godly character and discipline both gender roles require. Sadly, several unfounded and unbiblical teachings have caused more harm than good.

Trusting God is the first step to achieving success in life and marriage. What's most important in any relationship is the peace of God. A marriage could be controlling, frustrating, and lack joy if one party or both have not learned to fully trust God. Note that if you didn't receive love as a child, there is a tendency to think that you can fill that gap through another individual, and you may be exploited, disappointed, or hurt. It is more beneficial to stay unmarried until you have a healthy love for yourself and thoroughly understand your position in Christ.

We all can create palaces and sanctuaries in marriage. It starts with a decision.

Recommended Bible Study: First chapter of the book of James