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Excerpt From My Book

We each carry our ideas of what it means to love and be loved, yet so few of us have turned to the Creator of love to understand its true meaning. Without His guidance, how could any of us possibly discover what real love is?

Chapter 1

Chapter 3

Every family carries unspoken stories, ingrained habits, emotional blueprints, and spiritual dynamics that shape how generations think, love, communicate, and respond to life. We inherit more than DNA. We inherit patterns—some healthy, some destructive.

Abraham trusted God and became a “friend of God” (James 2:23). His life shows that when we operate from God’s love, with faith and obedience, our influence and relationships reflect God’s purposes.

Chapter 6

Chapter 8

True love flows best from a heart that has been healed. Unresolved pain, insecurity, or bitterness leaks into our relationships, subtly sabotaging our ability to trust, give, and receive love fully. You may chase relationships to feel worthy rather than to share life with someone genuinely.

February Reading Pick

February is widely known as the month of love, but love alone isn’t enough to sustain a strong marriage. Whether you’re single, newly married, or married for decades, there is always room to grow and do better in our relationships.

This month, I’m recommending Vertical Marriage—a powerful, honest resource that shares real-life experiences to strengthen and restore marriages. The authors’ vulnerability is rare and refreshing, and their willingness to share is a true blessing.

My dear Christian family: growing up in a Christian home is not a substitute for learning how to build a healthy, godly marriage. Strong marriages require intention, nurture, and wisdom—sometimes starting with understanding what to avoid.

As you choose resources, take time to seek God’s guidance prayerfully. I highly recommend Vertical Marriage, whether you’re preparing for marriage, already married, or walking alongside someone who needs support.

I hope that this helps readers walk in freedom and fulfill God’s design for their relationships.

Happy reading, and God bless you!

Previous Highlight from the Author's Desk

If someone asked me to share key lessons from my walk with God, one that would stand out is learning to hear His voice personally without losing my sense of self or becoming mechanical. I’m undoubtedly still learning—it’s an ongoing journey.

Individuals have sometimes been instructed by a “prophet” to pursue or end a potential marriage for reasons not supported by the Scripture. These prophets sometimes claimed that marrying a specific person—or refusing to—could pose a danger or even death. The Bible shows that the strongest and most fulfilling marriages came from honoring God.

A God-ordained marriage is faith and value-driven.

Do both individuals sincerely commit to living in a way that honors God?

Is there a genuine, natural attraction and mutual affection between them?

Are both individuals willing to put in the effort, grace, and perseverance needed to make it work?

God has made many things simple, yet our sinful nature resists by clinging to control. Surrendering fully to Him requires a deliberate and willing choice. Unscriptural marital advice poses a hidden threat to the body of Christ, leading to confusion, division, and unnecessary marital delays.

Religion or culture should never become a barrier restricting God’s plans for our lives.

God’s love is so profound and takes into account the importance of compatibility, including physical attraction. The more we learn to rely entirely on God—rather than on our ability to predict the future—the more marriages will come to fruition in His glory.

Satan often enters the church as a religious spirit, bringing fear, criticism, and self-righteousness disguised as God’s voice.

If you have tried to influence your choices for reasons that don’t align with the Scripture, I encourage you to learn about God’s love before marriage. I’m learning more each day that God wants us to understand His guidance is rooted in love, not fear or condemnation.

As 1 John 4:18 NKJV reminds us, “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love.”

God’s leading is always consistent with His character—gracious and full of love.

In the Bible, families arranged marriages to demonstrate faith and shared values. Isaac didn’t know Rebekah intimately beforehand, but his father’s servant prayed for guidance, and Rebekah met the signs given in that prayer—though this isn’t to set a pattern.

I don’t believe Isaac—or his father’s servant, Eliezer—spent years analyzing Rebekah.

Their decision was rooted in faith, prayer, and alignment with God’s leading. Isaac saw Rebekah; he liked her, and their mutual affection led to marriage. The more we impose our ideas on the simple things God designed, the more problems and delays we tend to create.

“This is my request. I will ask one of them, ‘Please give me a drink from your jug.’ If she says, ‘Yes, have a drink, and I will water your camels, too!’—let her be the one you have selected as Isaac’s wife. This is how I will know that you have shown unfailing love to my master.”” Genesis‬ ‭24‬:‭14‬ ‭NLT

My message to the men—and I believe God is speaking through me—is to prayerfully take decisive action when needed without overcomplicating things. I encourage that we all continue to prepare, plan, and pray. God bless you!

How to Identify A God-Ordained Marriage

08/01/2025 - 2 min read

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