Personal Growth for Successful Relationships

Routine spiritual exercises or activities are not a measure of spiritual maturity.

So, what growth do I need to seek to be relationship/marriage-ready?

I have observed many dedicated churchgoers with little to zero respect or honor for the spiritual life that God requires. They speak all the languages people like to hear but still engage in pleasures to satisfy their lust; some go as far as consulting evil altars or mediums to obtain 'results.'

Narrowing it down to the singles/unmarried people among these groups of people, they also desire godly spouses because of how far they have gone deep into sinful living and the damage caused, they do not want to marry someone like them. The problem is many of their old habits don't end because of marriage.

Marriage is not a cure for a sinful lifestyle.

Historical experiences of others show that people with sinful lifestyles are often never satisfied in marriage; they are likely to keep searching because of soul ties and demonic connections. Some have many homes, including spouses and children, in the spirit realm because they have covenanted with altars. It is why believers cannot afford to risk meddling with sin.

Due to fear, impatience, ignorance, lack of personal growth, or a combination, a believer who has served God all their life and honors the commandments of God can end up with an individual who disguises to be a devoted child of God but still actively engages in sinful lifestyles.

What is the testimony of Jesus Christ if believers are partly of the world? We are either for Christ or the world.

Believers must commit to personal growth and self-discipline to obtain the promises of God for their marital destiny.

There are instances where people have used manipulation or witchcraft to win a relationship and marriage. If a man’s (male or female) tool for winning a relationship is manipulation or deception, you don’t need a prophet to know the possible outcomes of the marriage.

Some people try to intimidate those they seek to marry to rob them emotionally, playing on their psyche as a foundation for winning a relationship. That’s a red flag right there, too!

There is no reason for manipulation when God brings two people together. Regardless of the witchcraft (yes, you read that correctly) anyone engages in to tear them apart, it only follows the same process of exercising in a gym. If they are God’s perfect will for each other, the healthy attraction they have towards each other gets better, and this is not the same as lust.

I am sure some of you didn't know people could go as far as using witchcraft to bring relationships together or to tear them apart. That is why the Bible encourages us to ask for wisdom in James 1: 5-7: we can't possibly know everything.

We shouldn’t be church-wise and society-dull. The Bible talks about wrestling against principalities and powers. Life is a battlefield. We don’t live in fear but live ready. A soldier does not go to battle unarmed or lack skillfulness. That’s the mistake most of us have made and are still making. We have trained ourselves to become entirely dependent on others for spiritual needs or believe we are exempt from challenges as consecrated believers. Both are risky.

Perhaps, some of our cultures have suggested that life starts in marriage and that ideology also replaces God’s intention for marriage. Whatever puts pressure on you or gets you anxious about marriage could take you out of God’s original plan for your marital destiny.

Walking with God requires patience and obedience, which produces character, and we need to develop character to build successful relationships, including marriage.

It is time to rise to God’s expectations and own our personal development in all areas to lead successful lives and thrive in our relationships.

Recommended Bible Study: 1 Peter Chapter 1 (AMP)

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